The statement "I would love to talk about this with you if you have the time" is not an example of defensive communication. Defensive communication often involves blaming, making sweeping generalizations, or attacking the other person. In this case, the statement shows openness and willingness to engage in a conversation, which is not defensive in nature.
On the other hand, statements like "Why can't you think about someone else for a change?", "You never listen to me", and "You always do this" are examples of defensive communication. They involve blaming the other person, making accusations, and using absolute terms like "never" and "always", which can lead to conflict and defensiveness in communication.
